mithi shitabbi

[think]

can any one explain, why not khari shitabi and what is the logic behind this.

[Maqbool]

This might have been derived from hindu custom. Because the meaning of the name is some what "MITH SITA BI (BIBI)".

[Hozefa]

can any one explain, why not khari shitabi and what is the logic behind this.

Mithi Shitabi
Source: www.amatullahaai.com

By the wasila of Maulatona Fatema tuz Zahra (a.s), to promptly have our wishes fulfilled, our elders introduced this custom.

When a marriage is wished for or intended, or there are tiding of a new child or to bring about the fulfillment of any wishes – it is a custom to do the Mithi Shitabi Thal.

In the case of a pregnancy, the shitabi is to be done in the 7th or 9th month. 9 – 11 – or 14 women are to be invited; the no. is not fixed. There is no necessity to cook any particular food; but Gol – Roti (Jaggery and Chapati) is served in honour of the guests.

Mehndi and Kajal are to be kept in the thal. Besides this nothing improper should be done.

Before serving the food it is apt to remember Allah and the Awliyaullah (a.s) as per the traditions, in the reverence of Maulatena Fatema (a.s) Qasidas and nazams should be prayed in her praise.

The following should be recited: -

Selected couplets from the qasida mubarakah – Maulatona Fatema tuz Zahra…


Selected verses from the marasiyah Ya Sayeda Shoha dai


As much as possible from the nazams – Parho Fatema na upper salawat and Fatema chee Mohammed na pyari…


It is appropriate to pray the Noah – Fatema Appke dil ko hai dhukhaya kisne….


And in the end to conclude with a madhe of the Dai iz Zaman (tus)
In appreciation of the guests who have gathered to pray salawat, gifts should be given as per ones means. Paan, Mehndi and Attar should be given.

Widows, childless and menstruating women may also be included in the thals. None should carry wrong impressions that it is improper and inauspicious to include such women.

[zinger]

Hozefa, wasnt aware of menurating women, widows or barren women being allowed to sit. Not that i have come across an instance where they were not allowed, but maybe, they have never been asked too.

Good to know nonetheless. thanks

[bohra_manus]

Hozefa, wasnt aware of menurating women, widows or barren women being allowed to sit. Not that i have come across an instance where they were not allowed, but maybe, they have never been asked too.

Good to know nonetheless. thanks

This is what I can recall from a very very long time ago when I was present in our family member's shitabi:
Widow, Childless, and Divorced women can be invited but not allowed in the "main" thaal where the person for whom the shitabi is being done.