Want To Marry A Bohri Girl From Gujarat

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anajmi
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Re: Want To Marry A Bohri Girl From Gujarat

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Unread post by anajmi » Wed Jun 29, 2011 10:49 am

Humsafar,
In fact, in my eyes, he is a better human being for doing so.
Unfortunately for him, the religion he believes in, doesn't allow it. Fortunately for him, he doesn't have a clue what his religion allows and what it doesn't.

Consider this statement of his for eg.
The way i see it is that if she can sacrifice her entire culture and identity for the man she loves, i can reciprocate with alteast 10% of that for the woman i love.
The pagans of Mecca approached the prophet (saw) with a similar proposal. They first offered him 50-50. They said you worhip our gods for one day and we will worship your God for one day. The prophet (saw) refused. They then changed it to you worship our Gods for 1 day and we worship your God for a week. It went upto a year. The prophet (saw) refused.

What nulwala believes in is not religion, it is simply what is convenient at what time!!

Besides, why would you have a problem with bohras performing Sajda to the Dai and not have a problem with one of your bohris visiting a Hindu temple?

labbaikyaHussain
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Re: Want To Marry A Bohri Girl From Gujarat

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Unread post by labbaikyaHussain » Wed Jun 29, 2011 10:54 am

Humsafar wrote:Guys, please leave mustafanalwala alone and get off your high horses. There is nothing wrong if his wife still visits the temple and he accompanies her. In fact, in my eyes, he is a better human being for doing so. Remember, there is no compulsion in religion. And both of them prove, in a way, that the majority of us are born into a religion and do not acquire our beliefs through understanding or deliberation. Our beliefs are the product of brainwashing and habit. Both of them are doing what they have been taught to do. Most of us believe and do what we've been taught to believe and do. Only a few lucky ones are able to escape this conditioning.
this is not expected from you...no wonder progys are not heading any where just coz there leaders are clueless about there own religion. :(

Safiuddin
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Re: Want To Marry A Bohri Girl From Gujarat

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Unread post by Safiuddin » Wed Jun 29, 2011 11:06 am

To get back to the question at hand:
Sheik Rehab:

Marry who you wish, love who you want.
However, if it means changing who you are,
your faith, your personality, your practices, blah blah - then it's not for love. Then it's for
society and immature people who are still trapped by "Logo shoo kaisay?"
Every man and woman is entitled to choose his or her mate - unfettered by the idiots of the world who claim someone
HAS to be of this fath or that, or this color or that.
If the condition of marriage is changing your basic person, then someone is being very shallow - and
you will join their ranks if you acquiesce.
Who is anyone to say what faith someone should or should not follow?
Would you like to induct yourself into a hypocrite band of people who would have you
convert your faith just so you can be one of them - regardless of whether you believe their faith or not - on paper you are
a Bohri - and that makes you a shia bohri? (of course these last two words are an oxymoron).
Your marriage to the one you love is contingent upon your conversion? REALLY?
Do what someone else said: marry her, move somewhere else - and live in peace and be happy.

And seriously, you don't need a forum to tell you what is right. Use your brain and your common sense - stand up, be a man,
and stop letting the rest of the world determine your future.

Or employ the alternative: Faith unfaithful will keep you falsely true.

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Re: Want To Marry A Bohri Girl From Gujarat

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Unread post by shabbir4u » Wed Jun 29, 2011 4:32 pm

Sheikh,

you must be reading all these post My simple advice is this site is not right place to ask help you and your lover need to talk on these matter or ask your or her close friends or relative on these matter. Go and talk to her parents it will be the best bet. this fourm is for time past if you are bored just read few post. just c what u post and where this went.by the way which part of gujarat u from.

Good luck.

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Re: Want To Marry A Bohri Girl From Gujarat

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Unread post by Conscíous » Wed Jun 29, 2011 5:15 pm

Admin... :(

Conscíous
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Re: Want To Marry A Bohri Girl From Gujarat

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Unread post by Conscíous » Wed Jun 29, 2011 5:22 pm

Sheik Rehab, I feel sorry for you & your children to come :cry:

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Re: Want To Marry A Bohri Girl From Gujarat

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Unread post by stranger » Fri Jul 01, 2011 6:45 am

Mustafa Bhai,

I agree with you and what you are doing. .Its not important to be a Hindu, Muslim, Christian or Sikh, Its important to being a Human First.

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Re: Want To Marry A Bohri Girl From Gujarat

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Unread post by Conscíous » Sat Jul 02, 2011 10:54 am

Sheik Rehab,
On a serious note.. Don't do it..
She will become a big burden on you & your family..
I can guarantee you, she will have or get, a lot of health issues like arthritis, diabetic and other disease which are related to unhealthy lifestyle ( which bohra are very well known for ), and I can bet you 99.9%, she'll become obese, just like the rest of the bohri women.. Bohri women are known to be insalubrious & indolent..
Save your self & your children that are to come..
I'm telling you this from experience, bohri girls are good at text messages, saying the right words and very well behaved.. but it stops there.. The fruits they hold aren't so sweet as one would like to think :(

Conscíous
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Re: Want To Marry A Bohri Girl From Gujarat

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Unread post by Conscíous » Sat Jul 02, 2011 11:03 am

Admin..
I have not written anything inappropriate and nor am I giving false information with the intention of deceiving.. Sheik Rehab, has the right to know the truth about our bohra women and you have no reason to delete my message...

Thanks

anajmi
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Re: Want To Marry A Bohri Girl From Gujarat

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Unread post by anajmi » Sat Jul 02, 2011 11:13 am

Boom,

That was a very inappropriate post. All the women in my family near and far are bohri women and none of them are how you describe women. At one time or another each one of them shouldered the burden of supporting the family with a lot of difficulty. I would request you to withdraw this accusation and ask you not to make such generalizations.

Conscíous
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Re: Want To Marry A Bohri Girl From Gujarat

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Unread post by Conscíous » Sat Jul 02, 2011 11:47 am

anajmi,
I know, what I'm writing about our women is brutal, but this are my observation that I have noticed in our community.. And one of my main reasons for the hostility towards bohra women, is because of female genital mutilation.. They are the advocates behind this inhuman practice!!

Al-Muizz
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Re: Want To Marry A Bohri Girl From Gujarat

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Unread post by Al-Muizz » Wed Jul 06, 2011 2:54 pm

I agree with Anajmi, BooM-

Listen dude. What you wrote is so juvenile. And you excuse is laughable! You dislike bohri women because of female circumcision! Man, it's like saying you dislike the Jews killed in the holocaust because they were Jews!

If you are a bohra, then you ought to look at your own family....would you say that your mom, sister, cousins are fat, obese? Like you are such a good looking guy/gal who works out regularly? Grow up!

Conscíous
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Re: Want To Marry A Bohri Girl From Gujarat

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Unread post by Conscíous » Thu Jul 07, 2011 11:52 am

Al-Muizz wrote:I agree with Anajmi, BooM-

Listen dude. What you wrote is so juvenile. And you excuse is laughable! What excuse ?? You dislike bohri women because of female circumcision! when did I ever say that ??Man, it's like saying you dislike the Jews killed in the holocaust because they were Jews!

If you are a bohra, then you ought to look at your own family I have....would you say that your mom, sister, cousins are fat, obese? Hell yeah & I'll say it straight on their faces,.. because I care about them..Like you are such a good looking guy/gal who works out regularly? I am & I do work out :wink: Grow up!